Faux Dating

There’s a lot to be said about dating.  Let me start by talking about non-dating.  AKA: Faux Dating.  Faux by definition means artificial, imitation or fake.  Date means an appointment for a particular time, a social engagement or occasion arranged beforehand.  So faux dating can be interpreted as not going anywhere, doing or planning anything with someone. 

Let’s not mistake this for hanging out.  Hanging out is a blast and it is meant for friends, families, couples and groups.  But not dates.  Dates are for people getting to know each other to determine whether they could potentially become a couple. Then they could hang out.  Right? Well, on second thought, I see the best couple relationships still going on dates along with hanging out.  The dating ritual is nothing new; I have just been in the dark on the subject. And, yes, I really do like to swirl these ideas around in my head.

So, who then, is in charge of making the date?  I think it is safe to say that the man or the woman could make the plan and call, requesting the pleasure of the others’ company.  But, being the traditionalist that I (mostly) am, I think the man should do the asking.  I think a date could be anything from a walk to a picnic, movies, concerts, museums, latte’s, the beach, festivals, carnivals, Sunday drives in the country, bungee jumping (NOT), antique and garage sale shopping, star gazing --- the list is endless.  It could be budget wise or all out crazy extravagant.  That is part of the adventure.  How fun! 

This dating stuff hasn’t changed really.  It doesn’t matter if you are 15 or 68.  You meet someone, maybe you get a twinkle in your eye, and maybe you don’t. Someone calls and asks the other to do something and you go or you don’t.  You have fun or you don’t.  You go out again or you don’t.  Pretty simple stuff. Why do people complicate it?  It is definitely worth further exploration.

I bet that faux dating leads to faux marriage.